Dating an emotionally guarded men
"But if you can tell they are resisting changing emotional states, or they don’t have a lot of range, then there’s something threatening to them about emotions." Although emotional unavailability is often depicted as someone whose life is falling apart (hello, ), it is ultimately about control."It's sort of a protection or defense from feeling hurt," says Megan Fleming, Ph. Emotionally unavailable folks are fiercely independent: They may not feel like they need anyone.
Some are untrusting; they fear rejection or they have a fear of being controlled.If a woman had an emotionally distant or absent father for example, it frequently leads to her establishing a pattern of relating to absent love.After all, the love she learned in childhood was absent, and this is what she knows — that to get love somehow feels absent.You may have asked yourself at one time or another why many women find themselves attached to “absent love” by going after men who don’t show up for them and are emotionally unavailable.To be able to separate their attachment (or attraction) to an emotionally unavailable man many women need to figure out the subconscious relationship dynamics at play.
He is courteous and attentive, and he wants to sleep with you.